Respect & Civility


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As I have entered what many call the” Golden Years”, I have begun to notice a complete lack of two things that I was taught as a younger person, observed my elders practicing, and was told if I wanted to be a success at anything, I needed to practice as an adult. At the time I was taught this it was commonplace that people treated each other, more or less, this way.
The two things I’m talking about are respect and civility. There seems to be an utter lack of both in today’s world. Some, and I emphasize some, although it is a growing number, of today’s young people treat their elders as though they cannot wait for them to either retire or die and get out of their way. I have no doubt that they were not taught, as I was, to either treat my elders with respect and civility, or suffer the consequences for not doing so. The consequences when I was young was to hear the sound of a belt being unbuckled and released to be used as a” learning” tool.
However, I can’t blame this all on the young people because adults are now acting like spoiled children. If they don’t get their way, they treat other people verbally like I’m sure the plantation owners spoke to their slaves.
Social media has become a place where there are no consequences for vile and uncivil behavior because one can hide behind an alias, or even a false name. My grandfather had one rule, never say something about a man behind his back that you wouldn’t say to his face. That rule seems to have been forgotten by some today.
I also noticed a decided increase in the number of people who seem to think now that they are in some kind of a caste system and they are in the” upper” caste. One thing I have always tried to do is to treat everyone with the respect due them as a human being. I treat the janitor with the same respect I would treat the CEO. In fact, many times I have learned more from the janitor about how the business is run that I learned from the owner or the CEO.
All work deserves respect, if you look around you will see that no matter what the job, some people produce excellent skills and others do as little as they can to get by. Everyone, no matter who they are, deserves respect as a human being, and because everyone likes to be respected, you have to give respect to earn it.
The other aspect of society which has not completely disappeared, but seems to be on the endangered species list is civility. It costs you nothing to say hello to someone, a passerby, a fellow traveler, a complete stranger. A smile and a hello is like the” butterfly effect”, because you never know the circumstances or troubles of strangers. Over the years I have heard countless stories of someone engaging a complete stranger and making a difference in the strangers life without ever knowing it. In large cities we don’t speak to each other, we don’t make eye contact because were afraid, we don’t smile at each other, we don’t engage each other in any kind of human contact. But we rush home to post on Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat, and a plethora of other social media applications knowing that complete strangers will read them. The art of face-to-face conversation is fast becoming a lost art.
If we would all just try to engage five complete strangers every day with a smile and a” hello” or a” how are you today?”, who knows what kind of difference in may make in someone’s life, maybe even our own.

The one thing I’m very certain of is that we say that cancer and heart disease are the number one killers in our society, but I can tell you this, depression and loneliness probably top both of those.
When we all leave this veil of tears, and pass on into the great beyond, one thing is certain no matter how much money you have, no matter how famous you think you are, the only real legacy we all truly leave is what we leave behind in the hearts and minds of others.

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Illegitimi non-carborundum or Don’t let them get you down.


 

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As my friend Zig Ziglar was fond of saying ” Some people look for a fault like there’s a large reward for it”, or as my Grandfather used to say ” some people can find a black cloud in a silver lining”. there are many people who spend life totally immersed in the negative.

Reflecting on 50+ years in business, sales, and management, some of these people are so toxic they can suck the positive out of almost any situation. In meetings, they have a problem for every solution. Surprisingly, they often show up in management positions, most of the time through their length of service, luck,  nepotism, or patronage.

The worst of these people, or buzz killers as I like to call them, live in a constant state of negativity, denial, and excuses. I remember vividly being at an executive luncheon one day where one woman was remarking upon the good fortune of a relative who had just won a very large amount of money from playing the lottery. Sure enough there was one of these buzz killers at the table who, without hesitating for a second, remarked, ” Yes, but just think of all the taxes they’ll have to pay on that money”. To be fair to the buzz killer, it wasn’t malice on their part, but just the way this person’s mind had been taught to think over years of negative thinking and unhappiness.

We all deal with “buzz killers” everyday. Whether it’s at work, church, home, family, or organizations we belong to, everyone deals with these negative people. We have turned society into looking for excuses or people to blame rather than looking for solutions. Business owners will tell you they can’t find employees because they want a “position” not a job. It was announced yesterday that, for the first time in decades, there are more jobs available than unemployed people to fill them.

But people now blame “the economy” , Trump, democrats, republicans, bad breaks, “people out to get them”, their mothers and fathers, their enviorment, etc.etc. for their inability to be sucessful. We give out “participation trophies” to yougsters, but unfortunately LIFE doesn’t when they get older.

How to deal with the negative “buzz killers” ? there are two ways to do just that. The first is, if possible, avoid them like the black plague. If one can’t, then call them out on their negativity, “if you don’t like this idea, what is your’s?”, you’ll find they seldom have one.

Looking for the positive and not making excuses, and taking responsibility for your actions and decisions is the number one key not only to success, but to happiness in life.

As Zig Ziglar always said, “a positive attitude won’t get you get everything in life, but it will get you a 100% more than a negative one”.

Stay positive and happy my friends, take time to live, love, laugh, and enjoy the ride, if you don’t think the creator of the universe has a sense of humor about it all, take a long look at the United States Congress and then tell me he doesn’t.

I wish the best to all of you, work hard, but play and rest well also…

Happy Trails……

 

 

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Everyone, Yes, Everyone, Operates on Faith


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Faith, definition of : firm belief in something for which there is no proof,
trust in things unkown or unseen.

 Let me say first that this is not meant to be a secular post. As a very wise And well-traveled elderly Catholic priest told me once, “All over this globe God is called by many different names, just because the names he is known by elsewhere are not familiar to you doesn’t mean he doesn’t answer to them.”

Everyday people who profess to have no religious faith live by faith 24 hours a day. They set alarm clocks to awaken the next morning taking it simply by faith that not only will they be alive to hear it, but that the little blue marble that we call earth will still be in existence. They venture out into the world assuming by faith that they will not be struck by a passing automobile or bus, and that no great natural disaster or cataclysmic cosmic event will befall them. Almost every aspect of everyday human life operates because humans take it on faith that they will survive another day.

As I get older, the one thing that strikes me about mankind is the tremendous amount of hubris it has developed. The human race now seems to think that it has answers to all the possible questions in the universe. We teach our children now not to search for answers, because Google has all of them. Mankind now thinks it knows exactly how the universe was created, and although we have never set foot on any of them, exactly what the other planets look like, and what they are composed of.

We have turned the infintesimal amount of science we have developed and technology into God. One of our greatest minds of all time was Albert Einstein, who said ” The more I learn the more I realize just how much I don’t know”. One of the gurus of recent science was the late Stephen Hawkings, not to say he wasn’t a brilliant scientist, but he had explanations for almost everything about the creation of the universe, except for one thing. When he was asked what was there before the Big Bang, his answer was “Nothing”. Most people I know, and it’s a given that they are not nuclear physicists, would still find that answer hard to believe.

Many well thought of mathematicians, physicists, and astronomers have come to the conclusion that the universe and the cosmos didn’t, and some believe, couldn’t have simply “come” into existence by itself. They have stopped short of calling this God, they call it a “Grand Designer”.

Call it whatever you chose, but when you set your alarm clock, plan a vacation, start a retirement account, buy a house, or simply cross the street tomorrow, remember we ALL live by faith.

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The Avalanche Has Begun


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The Big To-Do About Really Nothing + WHAT IS IMPORTANT


Currently everyone seems to be over wrought about politics, on both sides. The Democrats seem to be almost foaming at the mouth daily about Trump. The Republicans seem to want to blame the congressional Democrats for their own lack luster performance. It has become tiring to everyone to watch this yip-yap every day with little getting done on healthcare or taxes.

Let’s all take a collective breath here and take a logical real-world view. If Clinton had won do you truly and honestly think YOUR life would be different today? If you’re completely honest with yourself, the answer is an emphatic NO. It makes little difference in the average citizen’s daily life who is POTUS. We all have to go to school or work, we would STILL be worried about the same things; family, finances, friends,health, etc. At the end of the day, no matter Trump or Clinton, when either left office they would still be filthy rich and unaware of the average person’s daily struggles to raise families, meet financial obligations, maintain their health, put food on the table and pay taxes to finance governments, state, local, and federal , which have become increasing unresponsive to their needs.

The governments, (all), have become more of a country club of over-paid whiners instead of representatives of the people who put them in office. They have their OWN health care plan, and somehow,on a salary of $174,000 a year or more, manage to become multi-millionaires in just a few short years. How? They kow-tow to lobbyists and special interest groups for re-election funds, and if these group’s interests conflict with your’s and mine, well guess who gets the cheese!

The founding fathers NEVER intended politics to be a “career” path, rather an honor and a chance to serve your fellow countrymen. They left their businesses and jobs to SERVE, not be served, and where expected to return to their jobs and businesses after a SHORT term in government.

We have, over the decades, created 535 “Count Draculas” who, as my mother used to say, are more than happy to suck the public trough dry. I heard someone say just the other day, “the difference between an honest politician and a crooked one is about 1 year in office. My Grandpa used to say, “the only difference between the government and the Mafia is that the Mafia makes a profit.”

Stop and think, we have got to a point where the people who makes policies and laws for US, the average citizens of the country,  most of them, have NEVER held a regular, real-world job, other the public sector, a place where your politics is far more important than your performance.

In my opinion, we need to stop looking UP to these people until they actually start looking OUT for US.

Happy trails to you….

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Why MSM is desperate to take down Trump


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First let me say I am not a Republican or Democrat, rather I would consider, if I have to use a label, I am what I would like to think of as a conservative libertarian. In the last election, had he been given a chance in the primaries, I would have voted for Jim Webb (D). Also, I find President Trump to be a man determined to make everything he would like to do very difficult because of his demeanor and bombast.

I have been around quite a while, several decades, and like former President Carter, I can’t recall the main stream media trying so hard to destroy a politician, let alone a President, ever. This leads one to wonder why?

The integrity and character of the print and video press has become non-existent. I can remember a newscaster named Cronkite who, during his working career, never showed a political bent for one side or the other,he simply reported the news and let the viewer decide. It was not until after he retired that one could tell he was extremely liberal. The same can be said of Huntley and Brinkley, Murrow, and numerous others. So why now it is so very obvious to even the casual watcher that all of MSM is hell-bent to take down the President?

The answer is very simple, and extremely obvious. They and their bosses are convinced they are in a fight for their very existence, and the more biased they become, they may very well be right. President Trump realized something they had not; simply that he did not need to play nice with them to get out his message. Twitter seems to be his favorite, but wait till he starts on Facebook and WordPress. The media have finally been caught by someone who refuses to kowtow to them and the extreme liberal bias they have shown over the last 15-20 years.

Stop and think for just a minute, do you ever remember them going after Obama, Hillary, or Bill Clinton as gleefully and viciously as they have Trump? If you’re honest with yourself the answer is no, never.

What MSM fears most is NOT Trump, but the IDEA that someone can go around them to put out their message and agenda. This is sacrilegious!!!! And heaven forbid John Q. Citizen would start thinking for themselves! Why the people of this country might even start researching their output and find that a great deal of what Trump says about them is true!! This, in the eyes of Main Stream Media, simply cannot be allowed, and it must be nipped in the bud before some other wise acre tries it. They have been bought and paid for by the extreme liberal left, and aren’t about to even consider non-biased reporting, it’s not what they’re being paid for.

They are, and rightly so, scared to death Americans are about to pull back the curtain and expose the “Wizard” for what it is, a tool for the advance of socialism and minimalism in America. Heaven forbid John Q. Citizen should start thinking for themselves, looking at how really bent and warped their reporting is! It could mean the end of MSM.

I hope that Americans will start looking with highly skeptical eyes at the lop-sided, politically driven drivel they are witnessing every evening from these so-called “journalists” who are bought and paid for by the liberals. Maybe then we can get back to reporting the news without bias so that the public can make up their own minds on issues without the tremendous slant and prejudice that is being shown now.

I, like most Americans, am completely capable of deciding what I think about issues, I don’t need or want your personal views injected into the stories as though they are facts.

Start reporting without bias, or in the fast paced, internet driven world of today, someone else will!!!

Read this article, it may open your eyes:

https://www.investors.com/politics/editorials/new-poll-confirms-medias-bias-what-else-is-new/

No matter where you go–there you are.. Happy trails..

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The NFL vs. 90% of Their Fan Base


The date 9/24/17 may well be remembered as the day professional football began to die. The NFL and its commissioner, and most of the team owners seem to be oblivious to 2 things; the meaning of the National Anthem to their fans, and what the American flag stands for to most people.

The fan base  of the NFL is not the intellectual,liberal, wealthy, elitist type that many of the owners and Commissioner seem to be, they are hard-working, mostly what would be termed blue-collar Americans who have either served in the military or have family members that have. They WORK for a living everyday, expect all that are able to do so also and pull their own weight, raise families, pay taxes, and have little or no idea what it is like to make millions of dollars per year. they watch the NFL strictly for one reason and that is to be entertained, they could care less about the political and social opinions of the football players/entertainers that they are watching.

 

Most of them were brought up with a sense of  respect for the flag and the national anthem, and more importantly for those who died fighting for the freedoms that we all enjoy today. Many of their relatives have served in the military, and for a lot of them  they have lost close family members fighting for flag and country.

 

These are the people who pour millions of dollars into the pockets of the NFL. They do not care that these millionaire football players feel some social entitlement  to be able to disrespect their country and the military. They, I predict, will simply refuse to support this kind of behavior and will vote with their feet and wallets and find something better to do on Sundays. I know that I will, and I hope you do too, they are after all, only spoiled children playing a game and whining when they don’t get their way.

God Bless America..

 

 

 

 

 

 

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