The Season of Reason


As the world seems to spin out of control, people hating each other, hurting each other, whining and complaining about most everything, we come to a small break in the year when most of us turn our thoughts to religion, and more importantly, to trying to help each other, and what’s really important in life.

This break unfortunately for most, the spirit of this season fades almost as fast as it comes, but for a few weeks, we actually consider the plight of our fellow humans, and what life’s true bounty is really about. It makes no difference how big or small our bank accounts are, or how many material things we possess, in the end, we are all lowered into the same size graves.

What does matter is who we stopped to help along the way, who we inspired to greater things, and how many hearts we touched along life’s way. The people who make a difference for others are seldom famous or rich, they just try to leave the people they meet and their world better for their having been here.

During this very short break in the seasons, be thankful for what you have, take a little longer to help those in need, and most of all remember the journey ends a lot quicker than you think, and all that is REALLY left is the people you love, the people who love you, and the memories you leave with those you meet along the way. At the end of your journey, whenever that comes, these are the only things that truly matter.

God Bless each and every one of you.


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As I See It From The Porch

Just a few short months ago, the Democratic Party was reveling in what they thought would be a cakewalk to the White House. In my opinion, had they chosen a different candidate, they would almost be at the finish line now. Because of the flawed candidate they have chosen, who seems to be plagued with not only a less than casual relationship with the truth, but scandals and arrogance that seems to return from the not too distant past to put the proverbial bite on her posterior. In other words, as we like to say in the South,” that dog won’t hunt at all.”

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                                                           THE WAY I SEE IT

Liberals today seem to take great joy in bashing Donald Trump, however, the way I see it, every voter should consider the following before making a selection in November.

If you’re satisfied with every week or two, Americans being slaughtered in the United States by radicalized, nutcase, Muslims who have been indoctrinated by ISIS, then by all means, please vote for Hillary.

If you’re satisfied with young people working hard to get college degrees and then finding there is no work for them, no way to pay back their college debts, and no way for them to make an honest living from their degrees, then by all means, please vote for Hillary.

If you think that our military forces are able to handle any threat, foreign or domestic terrorism for an example, if you think our military’s current status is just fine with you, if you think our veterans are receiving the healthcare they should in a timely manner, then by all means please vote for Hillary.

If you think that a politician can change their stand on almost every issue in eight short years, then by all means please vote for Hillary.

If you think that it’s okay for a presidential candidate to go in front of a Senate committee and lie repeatedly, and tell the same lies to the American public, and more importantly, to the families of dead soldiers and dead Americans, then please vote for Hillary.

If you think that Americans have become more united and less racially divided, in the last eight years, if you are happy to see innocent police officers slaughtered because someone dislikes, or thinks one of them across the country out of the many thousands, committed a crime for which they have yet to be tried, or even have investigated, then please vote for Hillary.

If you think it’s okay for a government official to put the country at risk by not following a government policy, and allowing classified information to more or less be put everywhere on the Internet, placing intelligence and military operatives at risk of death, with no repercussions to the government official, then please vote for Hillary.

If you think it’s okay for a presidential candidate to run on a platform of women’s rights while allowing their spouse to more or less commit rape and abuse their position of power and then turn around and trash the women who accused the spouse of such actions, then please vote for Hillary.

If you want a candidate who takes donations from foreign countries who have avowed a hatred of the United States, and from the large corporations that most liberals wail against, then please vote for Hillary.

I know not what Donald Trump would do as president, although I suspect he would at least strengthen our military, and not be obligated by large donations from Wall Street, and foreign countries that support terrorism, I DO KNOW from her track record that Hillary Clinton would say or do anything out of expediency and to get elected.

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I Honestly Don’t Understand Politics Now

confusedI have been around for quite awhile, some would say perhaps too long, and I find myself in complete wonderment and confusion of the Presidential race this year. On one side we have what can best be termed an uniformed, extremely wealthy, crude, egomaniac. On the other side we have two elderly socialists, one a proven liar, who apparently thinks she is somehow “entitled” to the nomination, and another who thinks everyone should have everything, with no regard to who and how to pay for it.

Are we at such a point that no truly qualified, honest, people with character and integrity will serve as President? If not, where are they? Where are people like Kennedy, Eisenhower, Truman, or Reagan? Where are statesmen like Jefferson, Franklin, Monroe, Adams or Madison, who believed it was a privilege to serve their countrymen not an ego or power trip?

Surely there are people in America today who have the welfare of the country above all else who could be on the ballot? What has changed in this country that makes these people not want to serve? We have, I believe,  never been in more perilous times, yet we cannot find people of character and integrity with a desire to serve rather than rule. If this is the case we are all in serious and dire trouble.

God help the future generations of Americans if ANY of the three candidates I mentioned earlier gets elected.

This is my opinion, but it is based on many, many years of experience and observation.

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The Deterioration Of Wisdom From Experience Today


I can remember as a youngster hundreds of times being told if I wanted to know something to go and ask my grandparents. It was not because this was a” nice” thing to do, it was done because the adult I was speaking to initially did not know the answer, and that adult was smart enough to know that my grandparents through experience were more likely to have the answer.

My grandparents, and other elders of the same approximate age had something there is no substitute for, personal experience with most of life’s problems. Some of those problems I’m sure they failed to resolve, and would’ve faced differently in hindsight, but they had the experience and knowledge they came from facing life’s problems head on.

The adults of this time, (age 35 – 50), knew that there was much knowledge and experience to be gained by seeking the council of those older and wiser. The culture at this time was one of someone who has faced life’s trials and tribulations and has attained stature and respect from those within his or her familial unit was automatically thought to be better qualified to give advice than someone 20 to 45 who was in the middle of facing some of these problems, and probably had not faced all of them.

Somewhere between the late 50s and early 60s American culture decided that this experience and knowledge from these elders was useless and irrelevant. I suspect the motive behind this was that the mores and morals of the culture had changed so drastically that younger people began to decide somehow magically when one reached the age of 20 they became endowed with all the knowledge they would ever need and advice from grandparents, or for that matter even parents or older adults, was not relevant due to the mystical, magical endowment of all knowledge simply for reaching the age of 20. Why ask anyone about anything when you already knew everything that you needed to know?

While my analogy may be a bit over the top, this was certainly a phenomenon that happened. We have developed into a culture which treats those with the most knowledge and experience as doddering idiots, people to be ignored, people who can barely function in the activities of daily living let alone make serious decisions. It seems to suit our culture now to berate, ignore, and generally try to make irrelevant anyone over the age of 50 to 55. Do you think I’m kidding? When is the last time you saw an ad for almost anything that was geared towards seniors and elders with the exception of health products and insurance? Being in this category myself, I not only can’t remember an ad like that, I find myself today wondering what the ads today were about when their over, because the product was either barely mentioned or left out of the it altogether.The irony of this is simply the fact that, for the most part, elders in our society are the ones with the money to buy these products, especially those with high-end price tags.

It might just be me but I think it’s time that we first of all stop calling senior citizens” seniors”, and start calling them the elders of society. We have developed such a poor image and the connotation with the term “seniors”, it almost makes me cringe when I hear it. On the other hand, at least for the moment, the term “Elders” seems to still carry some connotation of knowledge and experience. You may ask yourself why I think this is so important? The simple answer I would give you is that we as a culture have ignored this experience and knowledge to the point that our country and culture at best is more or less a chaotic hodgepodge akin to a weather vane which turns whatever way the latest twitter feed, Facebook post,or instagram trend sets it spinning. The slightest comment seems to set off one section of our population like a firecracker no matter how small that segment is. Opinions either cannot be voiced, or they must be so carefully worded by almost everyone in the public eye that they really can no longer be considered an opinion, perhaps just a passing comment because the firestorm that is set off by a “real” opinion, no matter which side of the issue it comes from, engulfs the person who gave it in such a tornado of controversy, in many cases they spend weeks, months, and yes even sometimes many years trying to defend it.

Wisdom from our elders would tell you that while you may not like that opinion, what another person thinks or expresses, it is their opinion and really none of your business– move on. Wisdom from our elders would tell us that while our heritages are quite different, what we need to remember first and foremost is that we are all AMERICANS. Wisdom from our elders would tell us that if we keep legalizing substances and behaviors that alter our consciousness or are unproductive, we will not be able to make progress as a society. Wisdom from our elders would tell us that if you are a Wall Street banker, or an auto mechanic, and you commit a serious crime you should go to jail. That same wisdom would tell us that our founding fathers did not intend our government to be a country club where our representatives spend their entire adult lives in comforts that most Americans can only dream of, and then retire with a ridiculous pension, when the founding fathers meant being a representative government was similar to military service, you serve 4-8 years and then go home and be productive in a real profession , and be grateful that you were allowed to serve. This is what the wisdom of elders is about.

This” wisdom of the elders” more or less boils down to the following, if we continue to do what we have been doing and getting unsatisfactory results, we will continue to get what we’ve always gotten. It really is just that simple, we need to seek experience and wisdom instead of hot air and promises, and unproductive government and government officials, and attitudes and morals that change quicker than a newborn’s diaper, or as one of these” Elders” recently said to me;” The more I look at this country now it reminds me of the Mafia with two exceptions; the Mafia has rules and enforces them, and it makes a profit.”

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The Truth–It’s Out There—-Somewhere

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As a society, we seem to labor today with some of life’s simple things, as for example, the truth.
I hear people berating Fox News, MSNBC, CNN, CBS, ABC, etc. etc., claiming the truth is not being told. Everyone has a different version it seems, of the truth. Brian Williams seems to have a problem remembering it, and many have a hard time telling it.
I read an article today that Pres. Obama decided to lie about his stand on gay marriage in 2009 to get elected.
Dan Rather several years ago seem to have a problem when checking sources for a story he wrote about President Bush.

Whether you are Republican or Democrat, in today’s world, you are a fool if you believe what you hear on the news from any one source. There is bias galore on both sides of the political spectrum on everything from the price of gas and its causes, to economics, terrorism, education, and even down to the terms and definitions of words we use when we speak to each other.

I contend that if you’re looking for someone to lead you to the truth the only place you are going to be led is to their version of it. Is it wrong to behead people, literally crucify children, indiscriminately kill prisoners of war, all because of what they believe or don’t believe? Of course it isn’t. The time has come to stop making excuses for brutal and unbelievably bad, evil, behavior.
It’s also time for everyone to take responsibility for their actions and their words. If people put their trust in you to tell them the truth, then you must face the consequences when you  lie. Whether you are a newscaster, president,senator, pastor, or any other position of great public trust. Excuses will no longer cut it, and we as citizens have a responsibility not to be led by the evening news, or Internet media, or for that matter anyone elses opinion, we must research, investigate, many different sources to determine what is the truth. We no longer have people of integrity like Walter Cronkite, Huntley Brinkley, or going back a few more years, Ernie Pyle, who no matter their personal politics reported without bias.
As someone has said, a lie can go halfway around the world before the truth ties its shoelaces.
The truth lies somewhere in between the reports of Fox news, NBC, CBS, the New York Times. It is up to us as citizens to research thoroughly, read out the bias of the reporters, and decide for ourselves what is really happening. It is also time for us as citizens to start refusing to take excuses for lies, bad behavior, political rhetoric, and general gossip from people who represent us in government and the news media. We deserve better and we must demand it. These are not white lies that we tell each other out of concern, these are cold hard facts upon which we base our votes in this Republic.

As Mark Twain once said,” Always tell the truth, then you don’t have to remember anything.” Some would do well to remember that in the future.

See you next time, the Lord willing and the creek don’t rise.

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Christmas Spirit – – If You Can’t See It, Does It Really Exist??


It is again that time of year, when hopefully during the Christmas holidays we are full of thankfulness and goodwill toward men.
There are those among us who see no real use for not only the Christmas holiday, but this spirit of gratitude and helping others. Their argument would be that they had no reason to celebrate, either the religious holiday or any reason to be more grateful and considerate of others at this time a year than any other.
I have generally found that those who make this argument display neither goodwill nor gratitude at any other time of year either.

In my opinion these folks lead lives that could best be described as” quiet desperation”. Something has hardened their hearts in their life, and they are not about to let any of us change that. They have generally become so accustomed to their inner torment and misery that should Santa Claus himself appear at midnight in front of their fireplace they would probably chased him off with a baseball bat.

However, for the rest of us Christmas represents a time of year to look upon others with compassion, friendship, and goodwill. We become reflective concerning the really important” gifts” life has given us, family, faith, freedom, food, shelter, and true friendships. These things will not appear in neatly wrapped packages under your Christmas tree, but they are the single most important” GIFTS” you will ever receive any time.

The plain and simple truth of the matter, if you want to be happier and more successful all year round, is to carry gratitude for these true gifts with you the other 11 months of the year.
Have a Merry, Merry Christmas, and may God bless your house and all who dwell within.

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Why Having More is Not Always Happiness..


Often today I meet some people who seem to be very unhappy with their lives. They feel they have not accomplished enough, have not advanced in their careers to where they think they should be, and often feel that their income or finances are not what they should be.
I always ask the same question,” If you are not happy now with what you have, what makes you think you will be happier with more?”. Many of these people have blessings that others only dream about but they continue to feel unfulfilled and unhappy with their life situation. If the purpose of your life is only to acquire material and monetary things, and the lack of these things makes you unhappy on a consistent basis, as Zig Ziglar used to say” I’m pretty sure you need a check up from the neck up”.
” Happiness” is something that each and every one of us determines for ourselves. Unfortunately our society today is based on comparing what we have with what others have. The problem here is many, many times the people we are comparing ourselves to are  more unhappy, even with all they have, then we pretend to be for not having it.
Being grateful, or as I like to call it” The Attitude of Gratitude”, can instantly make life seem more fulfilling. There are many things that position, power, and money can’t buy, and here is a list of just a small portion of these things;
Good Health, True Friends, Respect for who you are as a PERSON, a clear conscience, a good nights sleep, a loving spouse and family, peace of mind, good memories, the satisfaction of helping others, the beauty of the world that surrounds us, true life-sustaining faith,  a life legacy based on the gratitude others feel for you, not from the power or money you obtained; but rather leaving others lives better than you found them, freedom, good manners, true joy in accomplishment, and last but not least true emotional love.
Perhaps if we all learned to start our day, and sustain our day, with constant intermittent thoughts of these blessings, and the many more I did not list, no matter what our station or situation in life, I think we would all be instantly much happier.

God bless your house, and all who dwell within.


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Forgiveness vs. Redemption


We all make mistakes, to be honest, I can spend the rest of my life blogging about the ones I have made, it is inevitable and a part of life. We make mistakes in our careers, at our jobs, and we make small ones several times a day everyday.
Concerning our jobs and careers, let me make this very clear, there is a difference between an honest mistake and outright incompetency. Persistent and prolonged incompetency usually comes from either arrogance or a sense of entitlement. There is no cure for it until the underlying causes are removed, which in the case of arrogance rarely ever happens.
The most important mistakes we made concern our relationships, both with friends and family. We will make them, again it’s just a part of life. Some will be inconsequential while others can be devastating to ourselves and others.
The path followed by most is” I’m sorry, please forgive me.” For some people this becomes a mantra, a crutch, and excuse to keep making the same mistake over and over. Eventually, the listener becomes immune to this and will either break off the relationship or become heartbroken and depressed or in some cases irate and furious.” I’m sorry, please forgive me” has little or no meaning after being repeated over a long period of time.
I believe in these situations, this” excuse” is used due to a weakened or lack of character and integrity. If you are truly” sorry” the next thing that should be said is” how can I make it up to you, what can I do to make things right?”.
This is the first step in seeking not forgiveness, but redemption, but it will mean little or nothing if not followed by actions to regain trust and respect from the person or persons we had wronged.
There are literally hundreds of thousands of stories of people who have made mistakes and redeemed themselves. Being human, we all love these stories because we know in our hearts that we too will eventually make serious bad decisions that lead to some form of serious mistake. We love the stories of redemption simply because we hope we will have the character and integrity to redeem ourselves when it happens to us.
God Bless your house and all who dwell within. Thanks for reading…

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We Have Stopped Talking TO Each other


I was thinking today, over my first cup of coffee this morning, that one of the great problems we ALL face today is the simple fact that we had stopped talking TO each other and have begun talking AT each other.
This has become a problem not only in our personal and professional conversations, but also in our national dialogue in everything from politics, science, religion, etc. etc. Today, when someone expresses an opposing view we seem to want to reply not with the facts supporting our position, but rather with innuendo, sarcasm, and in some cases just out right vile and vitriolic commentary.
As Voltaire once said, “I do not agree with what you say, but I will defend to the death your right to say it.” We need to stop the name-calling, idiotic sarcasm and start listening to each other with the intent to understand rather than the intent to reply with sarcasm and the vitriol.
I do not remember anywhere in history where a conflict of ideas arose where it was settled with sarcasm and incivility. No solutions can ever be reached in this kind of atmosphere. Vile and highly sarcastic language only leads to hatred and others taking an even harder stance against those with opposing views.
In my opinion, while I believe this country was founded on freedom of speech, I do not believe it was founded on freedom of sarcasm and incivility.
” God bless your house and all who dwell within”.

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